betwixt and bet-wean
October 12, 2010 in Uncategorized
04:34am: Wanna Play?
It’s amazing how different two kids from the same genetic pool can be. My eldest slept through the night from 3.5 months and was happy to chat to his toes until we were ready to come get him at 8am (yes, I know, I was very, VERY lucky!).
My second boy, now 4.5 months, still wakes for some midnight munchies around 1 or 2 am, and then wakes up for the day about 4:30 or 5:30 – AND WANTS TO PLAY!
Especially since I’ve gone back to work, I’ve been taking a bit of strain with this arrangement. I’ve been unfairly comparing him to his older brother and resenting being woken up at all hours of (what I still rightly feel is) the night. But this morning I had a bit of an epiphany. You know, with our second child I’ve been very, VERY lucky!
When I went back to work we started the weaning process, getting Yishai onto bottles during the day and starting him on baby porridge. So I’m seeing much less of him now, and the breastfeeding is slowing down too. So it’s actually a blessing that I still get to have those little midnight cuddles, and drift back to sleep with the soft scent of babyhead by my face. And I get a couple of hours in the morning – before the phone starts ringing, the computer starts dinging, and my eldest, husband and the house need a share of my attention – just to bond with my little boy.
I’m not saying I’m not looking forward to sleeping through the night again(!)
But it’s not all bad.
And the more I think about it, life’s like that. We’re always betwixt and betwean – weaning ourselves from one state or process to the next – especially once you have children. We’re never stagnant, and the challenge is to get as much joy out of each stage as we can. I suppose it’s a wean-wean situation.